The Debate Over Sex Addiction: Does It Exist?
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The Debate Over Sex Addiction: Does It Even Exist?
THERE'S A LOT OF TALK IN THE MEDIA ABOUT CHEATING HUSBANDS SEEKING TREATMENT FOR SEXUAL ADDICTION. BUT not every cheater is a sex addict, or as professionals prefer to call it, a "sexual compulsive."
Is sexual addiction even a disease? Not according to the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), the definitive compendium on mental disorders.
But the manual does include a diagnosis called “Sexual Disorders Not Otherwise Specified" described as "distress about a pattern of repeated sexual relationships involving a succession of lovers who are experienced by the individual only as things to be used."
Examples include compulsive fixation on an unattainable partner, obsessive use of pornography, compulsive masturbation, compulsive love relationships, extra-marital relationships, compulsive sexuality in a relationship. Treatments to cure this addiction are residential rehab programs, weekly group therapy sessions that include 12 step programs much similar to Alcoholics Anonymous.
A favorite rehab place to the stars is Promises in Malibu, though the chain has other locations. The rehab doesn’t really look like a psych ward but more like a vacation spot; its website says it's "designed for clients who are accustomed to luxury."
According to Promises' literature, "those seeking treatment for sexual compulsivity are not advised to abstain from sex entirely, but instead are encouraged to learn to control their behaviors and positively associate sex with relationships." Treatment includes individual and group therapy, 12-step support, and possibly psychiatric medications.
"Most studies show that 80 percent of people struggling with sexual compulsions have some kind of family-of-origin or sexual trauma," says Aline Zoldbrod, a psychologist who authored SexSmart.
"Trauma is not just sexual trauma, it's emotional neglect, physical neglect or abuse, emotional abuse, experiencing or witnessing family violence, and/or growing up with parents who are addicted or mentally ill. In treatment, the patient is forced to take a long, hard, deep look at his family history and to confront the painful feelings which he or she has avoided in a supportive, informed atmosphere."
Tiger Woods and Jesse James are among the celebrities who spent time in sexually rehab an attempts to repair their marriages.
After Jesse James made headlines for cheating on Sandra Bullock with four women, the natural thing to do was to go to rehab. The place he chose for his treatment was the Sierra Tuscon facility in Arizona, which treats drug, alcohol and sex addictions as well as other disorders.
Tiger Woods reportedly was treated at Pine Grove in Mississippi for "sexual compulsion."
Nobody knows for sure if the treatments will work but it's too little too late for these wives, both of whom have ditched their cheating husbands.
These "sex addicts" are free now to do whatever they want with whomever they want. As single men, the only disease they'll have to cop to is called “can’t keep it in their pants.” They're now cured of marriage.
Madi S. is mom to two kids and three cats. She loves pop culture news, movies, fashion, travel, reading and observing the world.
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